get to know me meme: ten female characters ♦ joan watson
↳ “My point is that the only thing that anyone can predict about people with a 100 percent certainty is that they’ll change, and anyone who thinks otherwise is kidding themselves.”
making self described lesbian characters bi/pan is equivalent to saying that men should have access to them.
fucking stop it
erasing a lesbian character’s sexuality in favour/preference of another is gross and shouldn’t be done, but men do not have access to bi/pan women either, and you shouldn’t say that??? that’s also gross and you should… not say it
When you grow up with stigma, people tell you a lot of well-meaning things that actually cause problems. When you face people treating you like you’re less of a person, someone will often say something like:
- "You’ll prove them all wrong some day".
- "It’s ok. You’ll show them. You’ll prove that you’re better than they ever could have imagined."
And then, when you accomplish things, it often becomes, “Well, you proved them wrong, didn’t you?”People who say this often mean well, but this is a form of victim-blaming, and it can hurt people who believe it really badly. The truth is:You didn’t prove them wrong. You never had to prove them wrong. They were already wrong.Prejudice is not something you have to earn your way out of. Dehumanization isn’t your fault. You don’t have to prove that you are human in order to be human. You don’t have to have amazing accomplishments in order to prove that you have worth. Everyone has worth. People who don’t recognize yours have always been wrong.You didn’t prove them wrong. They were already wrong. About you, and about everyone else too.You might have to fight to be seen as a person. You might have to fight for your life and your safety and for basic respect. That’s a fight you may or may not win. It’s a fight that, no matter how hard you try or how good you are, you will never win all the way. There will still be those who hate you and see you as subhuman.But you can be ok, anyway. You’re ok. You’re whole. You deserve better. It’s not your fault they don’t see it. It’s theirs.You have always been a full person, fully deserving of respect and equal treatment. People who treat you as a lesser being have always been wrong.Knowing that helps.
…no matter how many books we read, how many ally trainings we participate in, or how sharp an analysis of power we think we have, we can never totally know one another. We will never have a complete knowledge of how not to hurt another human being. We can have a million conversations but I will never know what it feels like to live inside your body and the meanings that are attached to it. You can never truly know what it feels like to live inside my body and the meanings that are attached to it. And if we can never truly know one another, how can we ever truly be good to one another?
The project of being good to one another is, ultimately, a failed project. But we must be good to one another we must try and fail and try again and fail again and try forever more. A performance of political perfection is always already a performance of failure. The so-called politically perfect performance has all the color and distance of José Muñoz’s queer utopian horizon. We are not yet queer, we are not yet liberated, and therefore, every single performance we enact, whether on stage or in the everyday, must strive for political perfection, must move ALL of us closer to liberation
YouTube comments aren’t “just the Internet.” They’re not the product of a group of otherwise nice guys who suddenly become evil when they wear a veil of anonymity. YouTube comments are actually a nightmarish glimpse into the sexist attitudes that define the fabric of our own existence in the “real world,” a world that, like YouTube, is owned and dominated by men. The most terrifying gift that the Internet has given us is that it’s shown us how men honestly perceive the world: as a place where women exist exclusively for their sexual pleasure.
In the wake of VidCon, and as more and more women start speaking up about the harassment they face online, it’s time to start realizing that our narrative of progress is deeply flawed. Things aren’t getting better for women on the Internet; they’re deteriorating and ignoring the problem amounts to being complicit in it.
"For women on the Internet, it doesn’t get better" by Samantha Allen (via sunny-burn)